I have something I need to get off my chest.
Apparently there is this webite going around called
mymomisafob.com where people post things their Asian moms do. Most of the posts have to do with their Asian mom's having bad grammar or accents that end up with funny results. I guess there a lot of people who think this site is funny. I would like to go on record and say that I do not. I think the site is extremely disrespectful and degrading. I understand that some people with think I'm just overacting or don't have a sense of humor. But this is my blog, so suck it.
Having an Asian mom of my very own, I understand that kids can sometimes feel embarassed by the things their moms do. They say things in a funny way, they do socially embarassing things sometimes. I do not, however, think it's okay to broadcast these things in public and invite the rest of the world to laugh at her. My mom might have an accent and struggle with her grammar sometimes, but I also know it is something she has struggled with her whole life and has insecurity about it. My mother is also an intelligent, well-educated, loving, strong, brave, and courageous woman. She is not the butt of some dumb kid's self-loathing racist joke.
When it all comes down, these are two truths that I believe:
1. You don't air out your family's dirty laundry in public. If you've gotta vent or laugh at something your mom does, you do it with your siblings or close, trusted friends. You don't post it online so random people who don't even know her can laugh at her too. If my mom found out I did something like that, I would feel so ashamed of myself.
2. The way you treat your family members in public only gives strangers permission to treat them the same way. When I say "family" I also mean race. When you go around making fun of Asian accents in public, it only makes non-Asians think that it's okay for them to do it too. It's like the whole "n****r" thing with blacks. If they're going to call themselves that word in their own homes and communities, that's up to them. But when you get rappers and people using it in a public forum, now you get all these teenagers that think it's okay for them to say too. Well, it's not okay. IT'S NOT OKAY.
I also don't think it's okay to call people "fobs", but that's for another day.
Okay, I feel like I have sufficiently vented now.
Bye.